arun on Nov 06 2007 | Filed under: 4 to 8 year old, conflict & communication, family diary, laugh
Driving along yesterday and M who is 5yrs was having a shouting match over a fairy doll with Z who is 18months. Im the sort of person who needs to concentrate when I drive. Well actually the driving bit is fine… its the driving in the right direction that seems to consume every brain cell [...]
arun on Oct 05 2007 | Filed under: conflict & communication, looking out, parenting
“Natural Consequences” are promoted by many mainstream parenting sources. It often involves a parent or teacher not intervening in an event to allow the child to experience the consequences and learn from it. Other definitions interchange and flow it into “logical consequences” which are enforced consequences that have some logical or thematic flow from a [...]
arun on Sep 30 2007 | Filed under: 4 to 8 year old, control & connection, empowerment & trust, family diary, parenting, unconditional
We just returned home from 10 days staying with my mum interstate for a relation’s Indian wedding extravaganza. Pictured is M after Mendhi night, a traditional ceremony where henna is put in intricate patterns on the hands of female participants, it lasts for about two weeks afterwards. WHEN YOUR CHEEKS ARE NOT YOUR OWN A [...]
arun on Sep 29 2007 | Filed under: 0 to 2 year old, family diary, parenting, unconditional, unregulating food, tv
Reading the elists & web sites that I do and hanging out with the families that we do, it was a reality check to hear terms such as “good, bad & naughty” thrown around so much during the last 10 days while visiting my extended family. Usually it was “Good” but of course that always [...]
arun on Sep 23 2007 | Filed under: *favourites*, parenting
Guess who has just learnt how to add surveys to their blog? It’s anonomous and quick… please take a moment to click on one of the options below to add your vote. Feel free to comment / explain / whatever in the add comments section also but at the very least do just put in [...]
arun on Sep 19 2007 | Filed under: 0 to 2 year old, attachment parenting, birth, dad stuff, parenting, pregnancy & birth
(warning – this post discusses male genetalia and bodily fluids – please place a calm blue ocean in your minds eye and skip to the next post if such references shock, offend or make you feel slightly queasy) Sperm Donor… At worst that’s what we guys are in the “miracle of life” equation. For Mum’s there [...]
arun on Sep 18 2007 | Filed under: early teens, late teens, looking out, parenting
Thanks to Marion who emailed me a link to this interview in Psychology Today with Psychologist Robert Epstein. According to the article teaser: “Epstein argues in a provocative book, “The Case Against Adolescence,” that teens are far more competent than we assume, and most of their problems stem from restrictions placed on them.” What I [...]
arun on Sep 08 2007 | Filed under: conflict & communication, looking out, mindfulness, others wisdom, parenting
A brief aside – I wanted to acknowledge people so far who have responded to the last post, 8 Things About You. With the variety of answers and insights so far it has now officially become my favourite post on this site. Please add your own answers if you have not done so already… especially [...]
arun on Aug 23 2007 | Filed under: conflict & communication, mindfulness, parenting
Anne has been putting me on to the likes of Eckhart Tolle & Jon Kabat-Zinn recently. They both discuss the importance of being aware of the moment as the moment is all we have. In parenting terms, I am beginning to realise the particular importance of being aware in “that moment”. You know the moment [...]
arun on Aug 18 2007 | Filed under: 0 to 2 year old, family diary, parenting, stages & ages
Anne & I have a great responsibility in the morning. We take turns in assisting a scientist with his work. The science is quite ecclectic. One morning the focus is on chemistry and mixing a huge range of chemicals and compounds with unexpected results. Alternatively it might be on physics, especially comparitive studies on gravity, [...]
