arun on Mar 27 2008 | Filed under: education, empowerment & trust, parenting, unschooling, work from home
Anne & I have recently been reading and implementing coaching techniques for our home business to great effect. We have been using a coaching approach called the GROW model popularised by John Whitmore in his book Coaching for Performance. Although I feel uncomfortable with describing parenting as coaching, I was struck by how this approach [...]
arun on Mar 06 2008 | Filed under: 0 to 2 year old, aware, parenting, stages & ages
SPLAT! It was the sound of our 21 month old son Z falling from the second step of a step ladder onto the kitchen floor. A few years ago, if that was M, I probably would have jumped in and scooped her up like I was some pseudo action hero… checking for blood, tears or [...]
arun on Feb 21 2008 | Filed under: conflict & communication, control & connection, parenting
Let me unequivocally state here and now that consistency is essential, non negotiable and crucial in parenting… if you are going down the behavioural modification road. The bastion of mainstream parenting, this approach generally has shaping and moulding children’s behaviour into acceptable forms as its primary goal. Studies show that consistency is crucial to this [...]
arun on Jan 01 2008 | Filed under: *favourites*, death & life, inspiration, looking out, mindfulness, others wisdom, parenting
A new year. A period when people are generally open to reflection and new resolutions. Where there is often a break from the busyness of business and time to sit with ourselves and our life. Where there is a moment to choose priorities, direction and who we are being for the coming year. A time [...]
arun on Dec 26 2007 | Filed under: 0 to 2 year old, parenting
I dont remember much of the movie Jurassic Park, but I remember that scene. The raptors are small, meat (ie people) eating, vicious dinosaurs and they are loose in the base… i think the script went something like: guy: (loads gun) so there are only two raptors right? The third one is contained. woman: yes… [...]
arun on Dec 19 2007 | Filed under: laugh, parenting
Sick of the dillema? Not sure whether to pass on the baby clothes yet? Finally here at the Parenting Pit we have established a scientific, fool proof method of determining how many chlldren you should have. Simply fill in the following information: STAGE ONE – ESTABLISHING VARIABLES Assign values to the variables below by following [...]
arun on Nov 21 2007 | Filed under: *favourites*, 0 to 2 year old, 2 to 4 year old, 4 to 8 year old, control & connection, empowerment & trust, mindfulness, others wisdom, parenting, unschooling
A SPECIAL POST BECAUSE THE PARENTING PIT IS ONE YEAR OLD TODAY!!! Ironically if I stumbled upon a site like this just three year ago, I would have ignored it at best and written an abusive email at worst. Somewhere in between that three year and one year mark, I went through a major parenting [...]
anne on Nov 18 2007 | Filed under: mindfulness, parenting
Hello, Anne here. This is my very first contribution to the Parenting Pit. It even took me many months before i even READ the posts that Arun was writing – much to his disappointment and frustration. Why has it taken so long? Partly because it is Arun’s “baby” so to speak and i have wanted [...]
arun on Nov 11 2007 | Filed under: mindfulness, parenting
Does that title describe you? Many parents would like to be described this way according to the “Magic Parenting Pill Survey” I put on this site a while ago, which you can see by clicking here. As I write this 94 people had voted (thanks everyone!). There were two options that clearly led the pack: [...]
arun on Nov 09 2007 | Filed under: aware, conflict & communication, control & connection, inspiration, newbies, nvc & pet, others wisdom, parenting, unconditional
These days if someone is wanting to make changes to their parenting I recommend Pam Leo’s Connection Parenting. If someone is the partner of someone who wants to make change then I would recommend Alfie Kohn’s Unconditional Parenting. Kohn’s book presents a strong case, with well referenced research and in that sense presents a compelling [...]
