Thanks to homeschool mums Wendy & Marion for telling us about Patty Wilpfer’s Hand in Hand site. Click here to read her article Being “In Control”– The Possible and Impossible in Parenting, which we have just added to our site.
Patty Wilpfler’s writing covers broad topics often pitched for a mainstream audience and has […]

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When we first started this site one of the first articles i posted was “An Unschooling Journey – from Control to Connection”, which described our own journey into unschooling. It was written for an excellent magazine based in Australia called Kindred Magazine (formerly Byrons Child).
They have indicated that they might use it for the June […]

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I admit to total frustration at times. When our daughter barks a command at her grand mother. Or yells at us after we have just gone out of our way to try to help her. Such experiences are not everyday but they happen… we just got back from staying with my mother in law, so […]

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Just posted the article “Five Reasons not to say ‘Good Job’”. It might be familiar to those of you on egroups as it has done the rounds. In it Alfie Kohn summarises some of his basic arguments against praise and his case for unconditional love. His book Unconditional Parenting is great and is on my […]

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They said it would happen on the egroups and the books. For the last two months we have not been imposing expectations on our daughter. When she asks for things we help her get them.
On occasion she would call me to her room only to ask me to pass her something a few feet away. […]

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I recently wrote an article entitled An Unschooling Journey – from Control to Connection which you can read by clicking here.
I wrote it for Kindred magazine (formerly Byron Child Magazine) who will hopefully be publishing it in their June edition.
I have been very motivated to write such an article because although anne & I feel that […]

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Recently our daughter had a melt down when a mother who we met for the first time asked her to not sit on the curb. A number of factors at play:
- she believed that the mum did not trust her (that the mum thought she would run onto the road)
- she did not know what […]

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We have taken the plunge and decided to unregulate everything. After almost two months of steady movement in this direction, this decision came relatively suddenly just a week ago.
Anne and I have managed to connect with a new level of trust with our daughter. We really do believe that she is up for this and […]

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Where as previously many of our opinions would have been interpreted as lectures, as we move towards greater unregulation we seem to have more freedom to constructively comment. Recently we had missed breakfast and went to a shop to get something. My daughter asked for a chocolate muffin. I reminded her that we had a […]

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As mentioned previously our biggest challenges to total unregulation and trust with our children related to food & tv. I have previously discussed our moves towards unregulating tv from having no tv to our 4yr old daughter having her own portable dvd player. She is content with the dvd option for now and generally […]

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