arun on Aug 12 2008 | Filed under: control & connection, death & life, empowerment & trust, mindfulness, parenting, unschooling
I admit it. I am still a reforming parenting control freak. You wouldn’t know it to chat to me. Or by the fact I am into unschooling and trusting my children. But in all honesty it is a constant effort not to “do things for them”, or more often “to tell them or make them [...]
arun on Jul 25 2008 | Filed under: death & life, family diary, mindfulness
Its been a year and a few days since I wrote a post called “Snapshots” which you can read here. A year later, M is 6yrs and Z is 2yrs. So here goes another snapshotWhat they are saying: M: “Daaaadddy… can you come here?” calling from the bunk bed that Anne got her, to ask [...]
arun on Jan 01 2008 | Filed under: *favourites*, death & life, inspiration, looking out, mindfulness, others wisdom, parenting
A new year. A period when people are generally open to reflection and new resolutions. Where there is often a break from the busyness of business and time to sit with ourselves and our life. Where there is a moment to choose priorities, direction and who we are being for the coming year. A time [...]
arun on Nov 21 2007 | Filed under: *favourites*, 0 to 2 year old, 2 to 4 year old, 4 to 8 year old, control & connection, empowerment & trust, mindfulness, others wisdom, parenting, unschooling
A SPECIAL POST BECAUSE THE PARENTING PIT IS ONE YEAR OLD TODAY!!! Ironically if I stumbled upon a site like this just three year ago, I would have ignored it at best and written an abusive email at worst. Somewhere in between that three year and one year mark, I went through a major parenting [...]
anne on Nov 18 2007 | Filed under: mindfulness, parenting
Hello, Anne here. This is my very first contribution to the Parenting Pit. It even took me many months before i even READ the posts that Arun was writing – much to his disappointment and frustration. Why has it taken so long? Partly because it is Arun’s “baby” so to speak and i have wanted [...]
arun on Nov 11 2007 | Filed under: mindfulness, parenting
Does that title describe you? Many parents would like to be described this way according to the “Magic Parenting Pill Survey” I put on this site a while ago, which you can see by clicking here. As I write this 94 people had voted (thanks everyone!). There were two options that clearly led the pack: [...]
arun on Sep 08 2007 | Filed under: conflict & communication, looking out, mindfulness, others wisdom, parenting
A brief aside – I wanted to acknowledge people so far who have responded to the last post, 8 Things About You. With the variety of answers and insights so far it has now officially become my favourite post on this site. Please add your own answers if you have not done so already… especially [...]
arun on Aug 23 2007 | Filed under: conflict & communication, mindfulness, parenting
Anne has been putting me on to the likes of Eckhart Tolle & Jon Kabat-Zinn recently. They both discuss the importance of being aware of the moment as the moment is all we have. In parenting terms, I am beginning to realise the particular importance of being aware in “that moment”. You know the moment [...]
arun on Jul 27 2007 | Filed under: *favourites*, death & life, mindfulness
I realise my continual focus on death might be perceived as morbid (after the last post and the one a while ago on “Before we Become Worm Food”… but i find that being appreciative and present to what I have is often heightened when I get in touch with contrast… and how dynamic and full [...]
arun on Jul 11 2007 | Filed under: 0 to 2 year old, 4 to 8 year old, family diary, mindfulness, stages & ages
I often think of children as “markers in time”. (At the risk of sounding like a Bold & Beautiful intro) It’s like an hour glass with sand dripping from the top to the bottom… the second grain to fall literally doubles what is there, the change is so incredibly stark and obvious. By the time [...]
