Time is Relative
arun on Jul 07 2009 at 2:59 am | Filed under: other | Click here to go HOME | or find out about SUBSCRIBING TO THE PIT |
I know it’s been a while (about 7 months) since my last post, but as Einstein said, “time is relative.”
Of course he was referring to space time and how if one clock sits on a couch doing nothing but ticking and another clock travels through space on some groovy rocket ship at close to the speed of light how one will grow old, cranky and grey first and the other will remain young and pert of buttock… or something like that (couldn’t find my “Einstein for Dummies” book before I wrote this).
That’s not quite what I’m referring too though.
I’m talking about how 8 months ago, about the time I wrote the posts below, I thought I was pretty busy. Trying to foster a loving relationship with my partner, hanging out with our two children, growing a home based business, doing other life things and writing a novel seemed to fill my time.
Then the news came: Anne was pregnant!
I’m no hypocrite, I had used the formula on this page to derive our perfect number of kids, but sometimes things just happen.
That’s when I really discovered that time was relative. How suddenly, knowing what I knew about having babies, I realised that I had a tremendous amount of time now… before the sleep deprivation starts again anyway.
So for the last 8 months I have been extremely focused. I’ve really tried to prioritise my real life relationships with my partner and kids, I’ve almost finished the first draft of my novel and been trying to catch up on sleep… In preparation for what is to come in the next few days.
So tonight I sit here… our daughter is playing with dolls next to me. Anne & our son are asleep.
It could almost be a normal night, except for the massive birthing pool filling up with hot water in the other room, preparing for our homebirth. The due date is arriving in a few hours and Anne often delivers on or around the due date. I’ve got my “to do” list so I can remain calm when Anne tells me it’s all happening. She’s the one doing all the important stuff I know, but I still need a to do list for me…
And then back in baby land.
Am I excited? EXTREMELY! Am I scared shitless? Definitely. Am I wondering how I will have time to do anything else for the next two years? Very much so… Would I trade my situation for anyone else? Never!
I know that time is relative. I am preparing to enjoy the new bub every moment possible, even when I’m sleep deprived and grumpy (and when Anne is even more sleep deprived and even more grumpy). I can do this because I know that in a blink of an eye he (yes we know it’s a he), will be grown up…
You’ll still hear from me on occasion. In the wee small hours when everyone in the house is asleep and my brain is too fried to work or write. I’ll try to add a few things to this blog… but time is relative and it might be a relatively long time 
Arun,
Congratulations to you all.
I have wondered about The Parenting Pit and what may have happened so it is lovely to get an update.
Blessings for your birth and your beautiful baby boy
Louise
Dear Arun and Anne,
I wish you every joy and happiness. What a special and precious time for you all. Thank you for your update and for your wonderful web site. The Parenting Pit has given me many hours of enjoyment and lots of avenues to explore. I am very grateful that you created it.
With love and blessings
Sandy
Sending well wishes from Colorado (yes it used to be Vermont). Don’t forget that there is always a little more time right at the beginning than you think just remember to slow down and find the hidden moments.
Awww, congratulations!!!! What wonderful news. I wish you a sleepy, happy baby and a free nanny who also cooks amazing meals and loves your children as much as you do.
Congratulations!
And I was just thinking about you the other day
Wow, congrats on the coming addition!
Welcome back and congratulations! We’re thinking about y’all.
Hope you have a wonderful birthing experience! Looking forward to the announcement.
Arun! It’s so great to “see” you! And lovely to hear how you’re enjoying the journey. Our very best to you, Anne, and all **three** beautiful kids.
Congrats!! Enjoy the ride!
oh wow CoNGRaTuLaTioNS…
hoping your precious bundle is here & all is well for you all..
trusting AnnE did great ;>) what a joy!
Congrats on the new baby. How exciting! It was great to hear from you. Every once in a while I would check in on your site to see if you have posted anything new. Looking forward to hearing about the new baby.
Wow, congratulations on the fabulous news. I was just talking about you yesterday. Best wishes and happy vibes for a splendid birthing experience.
Many Congrats!!!!
Have had you in our thoughts lately… continue to love and learn from your blog posts… they never grow old!
I’m so glad you updated us! Many blessings as you welcome this bright spirit into your family!
Fantastic!
Baby is probably birthed by the time you read this — so happy to hear you have another! I experienced absolutely blissful home water births for babies No. 2 & 3. Although we have never met, our life happenings are following similar paths. Looking forward to reading your future posts.
Best wishes to you and your family. I trust that one day we shall meet! Whether it be a ONE Group, homebirth or unschooling gathering. Perhaps that could be your next project? A radical unschooling conference. . . have to be a first in Australia??
Kathryn
xo
An entry worth the wait. Congratulations!
Blessings to you all! May this homebirth be all that it needs to be for your family, may you hold the space for your beloved as well as you do your love for her in your heart.
lovely post from an expectant father… gosh, how wonderful that is… take care and love lots,
Beverley
It’s SO nice that you’re back online - at least for a couple of posts before the new baby takes over
I also hope your book is eventually available as an ebook or print-on-demand so I read it as soon as it’s out!
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Glad to know wonderful things kept you from posting.
I missed you!!!!!!!!!!!!