Comments on: 10 Tips for Reforming Parenting Control Freaks http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/ alternative parenting | conscious living | unschooling Tue, 06 Jan 2009 02:41:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: kompostela http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-166614 kompostela Mon, 08 Dec 2008 11:58:56 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-166614 Good post! Very useful! Good post! Very useful!

]]> By: Jennifer http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-149098 Jennifer Sun, 12 Oct 2008 18:24:43 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-149098 Perfect post to read this afternoon. I'm so glad I'm not alone. Thank you! Perfect post to read this afternoon.
I’m so glad I’m not alone. Thank you!

]]> By: Mali's Tips for Moms http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-149095 Mali's Tips for Moms Sun, 12 Oct 2008 16:11:26 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-149095 Hey, We're new to parenting, our little chicklet is almost two years old and the 'horrible two' is at its peak (we hope it wont get 'better' than this).. Your tips are great! Can't wait to show my wife. We might want to translate it, with your permission and reference of course, and publish it on our site... Let me know if it's ok. Cheers, Alex Hey,

We’re new to parenting, our little chicklet is almost two years old and the ‘horrible two’ is at its peak (we hope it wont get ‘better’ than this)..

Your tips are great! Can’t wait to show my wife. We might want to translate it, with your permission and reference of course, and publish it on our site… Let me know if it’s ok.

Cheers,
Alex

]]> By: Dan K http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-149083 Dan K Sun, 12 Oct 2008 08:08:11 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-149083 I found this a really interesting read. I work with children in a teaching capacity and enjoy reading things of this nature. I found this a really interesting read. I work with children in a teaching capacity and enjoy reading things of this nature.

]]> By: Ariad http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-146625 Ariad Wed, 01 Oct 2008 06:03:29 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-146625 I really loved this. They are all things I am constantly trying to remember to do but I've never gone to the trouble of making a list. Can I print out yours? I'd probably add another rule for myself; When in doubt say nothing. To the anonymous commenter- I unschool two children who are nine and fourteen and they both have basics such as reading and writing. But more importantlt they have the ability to learn by themselves things that interest them. Oh and they clean their teeth because they understand that not doing so might make their teeth rot, not because I mske them. I really loved this. They are all things I am constantly trying to remember to do but I’ve never gone to the trouble of making a list. Can I print out yours? I’d probably add another rule for myself; When in doubt say nothing.
To the anonymous commenter- I unschool two children who are nine and fourteen and they both have basics such as reading and writing. But more importantlt they have the ability to learn by themselves things that interest them. Oh and they clean their teeth because they understand that not doing so might make their teeth rot, not because I mske them.

]]> By: Valerie Willman http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-142801 Valerie Willman Sun, 14 Sep 2008 03:36:42 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-142801 I particularly loved this post. Hmm. Maybe I needed to hear it at this particular time. Thank you for posting it. I particularly loved this post. Hmm. Maybe I needed to hear it at this particular time.

Thank you for posting it.

]]> By: Brunnygirl http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-141180 Brunnygirl Sat, 06 Sep 2008 07:13:48 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-141180 Hi there, I'm dipping into your blog after a while away, looking to "reaffirm" unschooling ideals. It's funny, but I have been thinking recently, in my own mind as I go about my day, the same sort of thoughts that Anonymous made in their recent comment above. A lot of the unschooling families I know have younger kids and, at least for me, it becomes harder as they get older - my oldest is now 9 and I have to say for my own "peace of mind" I have introduced some structure into our lives. Perhaps this is really just a lack of faith on my part, but at the moment I'm walking the line between ignoring rising panic and making sure they can read so that they can actually get info for themselves from our world. Hi there, I’m dipping into your blog after a while away, looking to “reaffirm” unschooling ideals. It’s funny, but I have been thinking recently, in my own mind as I go about my day, the same sort of thoughts that Anonymous made in their recent comment above. A lot of the unschooling families I know have younger kids and, at least for me, it becomes harder as they get older - my oldest is now 9 and I have to say for my own “peace of mind” I have introduced some structure into our lives. Perhaps this is really just a lack of faith on my part, but at the moment I’m walking the line between ignoring rising panic and making sure they can read so that they can actually get info for themselves from our world.

]]> By: anonymous http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-139612 anonymous Wed, 03 Sep 2008 04:42:12 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-139612 Hi.... I used to unschool our two kids but as they grew up, particularly at age 7ish, I felt this need to provide an official education for them - you know, reading, writing, arithmetic - and so we homeschool now. I know a bunch of unschoolers and I've read a bunch of blogs about it, and it seems like most unschooling parents have kids that are 8 and under. I'll be pretty curious about your educational choices when your girls are older.... truthfully I doubt they'll be the same. It seems like a lot of people drop out of the unschooling ways as their kids grow. I mean there comes a point.... are you hear to guide your kids, or are you just going to let them figure it all out themselves? Do you make your kids brush their teeth, or is that a choice they get to make too? Do you let them watch hours and hours of TV full of ads they think are truth (because they are innocent)? When do you say no, that is not safe! ? Instread of asking them if it feels safe. I strongly believe that kids need boundaries, they need guidance, etc. That said, I did agree with a lot of your post, especially about parenting like there is no tomorrow. And I actually do think unschooling is a great way to learn, it's how I learn, and when my kids are in their teens and they have a foundation of a great education and skills, then we will make this transition. It's actually a family goal, to give our kids the foundation they need to be autodidacts. Hi…. I used to unschool our two kids but as they grew up, particularly at age 7ish, I felt this need to provide an official education for them - you know, reading, writing, arithmetic - and so we homeschool now. I know a bunch of unschoolers and I’ve read a bunch of blogs about it, and it seems like most unschooling parents have kids that are 8 and under. I’ll be pretty curious about your educational choices when your girls are older…. truthfully I doubt they’ll be the same. It seems like a lot of people drop out of the unschooling ways as their kids grow. I mean there comes a point…. are you hear to guide your kids, or are you just going to let them figure it all out themselves? Do you make your kids brush their teeth, or is that a choice they get to make too? Do you let them watch hours and hours of TV full of ads they think are truth (because they are innocent)? When do you say no, that is not safe! ? Instread of asking them if it feels safe. I strongly believe that kids need boundaries, they need guidance, etc.
That said, I did agree with a lot of your post, especially about parenting like there is no tomorrow. And I actually do think unschooling is a great way to learn, it’s how I learn, and when my kids are in their teens and they have a foundation of a great education and skills, then we will make this transition. It’s actually a family goal, to give our kids the foundation they need to be autodidacts.

]]> By: The Lazy Stay-at-Home Mommy » are you a parenting control freak? http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-138153 The Lazy Stay-at-Home Mommy » are you a parenting control freak? Sat, 30 Aug 2008 10:47:54 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-138153 [...] If you are, please read this awesome post from the parenting pit on 10 Tips for Reforming Parenting Control Freaks. [...] […] If you are, please read this awesome post from the parenting pit on 10 Tips for Reforming Parenting Control Freaks. […]

]]> By: Homeschool Control Freaks « Just Enough, and Nothing More http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-136858 Homeschool Control Freaks « Just Enough, and Nothing More Wed, 27 Aug 2008 05:44:10 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/12/10-tips-for-reforming-parenting-control-freaks/#comment-136858 [...] Arun over at the parenting pit gives good, concrete advice on how to curb our inner control freak, and become even better parents. [...] […] Arun over at the parenting pit gives good, concrete advice on how to curb our inner control freak, and become even better parents. […]

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