Comments on: The most Hands On way of being Hands Off http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/ alternative parenting | conscious living | unschooling Sun, 14 Mar 2010 01:33:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: ~Katherine http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/#comment-207468 ~Katherine Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:51:40 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/#comment-207468 A different spin not exactly from La Leche League's "Don't Offer, Don't Refuse" yet similar in that both seek to satisfy underlying needs. Thanks. I got the idea that not only does it avoid direct refusals most of the time, it also may avoid verbalizing "yes" or "no." Karl actually does this. I used to get irritated because the child never said either word. Then I finally got it when he pointed out that he had already said one or the other nonverbally. OH. :/ Dense mommie leapt before she looked .... again. I know this is supposed to be UNschooling but I have a great teacher and that's why I can do it at all. :D A different spin not exactly from La Leche League’s “Don’t Offer, Don’t Refuse” yet similar in that both seek to satisfy underlying needs. Thanks. I got the idea that not only does it avoid direct refusals most of the time, it also may avoid verbalizing “yes” or “no.”

Karl actually does this. I used to get irritated because the child never said either word. Then I finally got it when he pointed out that he had already said one or the other nonverbally. OH. :/ Dense mommie leapt before she looked …. again.

I know this is supposed to be UNschooling but I have a great teacher and that’s why I can do it at all. :D

]]> By: Alyse Inglis http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/#comment-132186 Alyse Inglis Fri, 15 Aug 2008 19:54:43 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/#comment-132186 Just wanted to say thanks for this. I am in discussions with a friend new to her homeschooling journey who has many questions about RU. She recently asked me how our life is different from "permissive" and and"un" parenting as she has witnessed those models and been horrified with the "results". We live an ocean apart so she cannot see our family in action. I will send her here to read your post as you have found the words that I could not summon. Just wanted to say thanks for this. I am in discussions with a friend new to her homeschooling journey who has many questions about RU. She recently asked me how our life is different from “permissive” and and”un” parenting as she has witnessed those models and been horrified with the “results”. We live an ocean apart so she cannot see our family in action. I will send her here to read your post as you have found the words that I could not summon.

]]> By: Ginger Carlson http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/#comment-131897 Ginger Carlson Fri, 15 Aug 2008 03:29:16 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/#comment-131897 As you know, I am big fan of "YES"! Thank you for this post. As you know, I am big fan of “YES”!
Thank you for this post.

]]> By: Tammy Takahashi http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/#comment-130783 Tammy Takahashi Tue, 12 Aug 2008 17:07:39 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/08/11/the-most-hands-on-way-of-being-hands-off/#comment-130783 Arun, have you read "Getting to Yes" by Roger Fisher? It's a business book, but it generally says what you're describing here. "Win-win" they call it in business. I be curious what you think of this book in regards to what you wrote today. Arun, have you read “Getting to Yes” by Roger Fisher? It’s a business book, but it generally says what you’re describing here. “Win-win” they call it in business. I be curious what you think of this book in regards to what you wrote today.

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