Comments on: Finding the Yes http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/ alternative parenting | conscious living | unschooling Thu, 28 Aug 2008 18:48:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Nalin http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-99633 Nalin Sun, 15 Jun 2008 09:07:33 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-99633 "You will know when you find it as they have an uncanny way of making everyone feel powerful and joyful." I love this whole post but I especially love this line. This is the method by which I make judgements about my own life, and it is lovely to hear it being applied to parenting... it makes so much sense! Thank you so much for helping me and so many others to do the best by our kids, this is truly a form of activism, and a way of changing the world, one family at a time. I have a six month old so am *just* starting with the no's and yes's... so this is perfect timing! Be well, Nalin. “You will know when you find it as they have an uncanny way of making everyone feel powerful and joyful.”

I love this whole post but I especially love this line. This is the method by which I make judgements about my own life, and it is lovely to hear it being applied to parenting… it makes so much sense!

Thank you so much for helping me and so many others to do the best by our kids, this is truly a form of activism, and a way of changing the world, one family at a time.

I have a six month old so am *just* starting with the no’s and yes’s… so this is perfect timing!

Be well,

Nalin.

]]> By: Jaime http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-95057 Jaime Sun, 08 Jun 2008 18:53:41 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-95057 Thanks for the post. :) Smiles all around. Thanks for the post. :) Smiles all around.

]]> By: PlanningQueen http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-82850 PlanningQueen Fri, 23 May 2008 11:00:26 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-82850 I hate to admit it, but I have been a bit tired and have been doing a bit of the "whatever". Such a well explained post - I know I shouldn't say it. I really just needed to read this to remind me! I hate to admit it, but I have been a bit tired and have been doing a bit of the “whatever”. Such a well explained post - I know I shouldn’t say it. I really just needed to read this to remind me!

]]> By: Stacey http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-79887 Stacey Mon, 19 May 2008 23:38:18 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-79887 I'm doing an NVC course atm and it's really opening my eyes up to the Yeses and the Nos... I'm still a baby in the NVC world but I can see things much clearer now! I’m doing an NVC course atm and it’s really opening my eyes up to the Yeses and the Nos… I’m still a baby in the NVC world but I can see things much clearer now!

]]> By: Colleen http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-77610 Colleen Fri, 16 May 2008 14:06:45 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-77610 I've been a big fan of the "whynots" for a long time but I can see now that a "yes" is much more empowering to everyone concerned. I'd never thought of that before. Thanks. ;) I’ve been a big fan of the “whynots” for a long time but I can see now that a “yes” is much more empowering to everyone concerned. I’d never thought of that before. Thanks. ;)

]]> By: mamacrow http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76952 mamacrow Wed, 14 May 2008 20:57:23 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76952 thanks, this helps thanks, this helps

]]> By: shawna http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76521 shawna Tue, 13 May 2008 23:01:07 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76521 I love it! Inspiring... and we attract what we focus on, so more Yes and less No. I love it! Inspiring… and we attract what we focus on, so more Yes and less No.

]]> By: Chrissy http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76245 Chrissy Tue, 13 May 2008 11:59:44 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76245 I really love what you are saying here Arun. I have been saying a bit lately... "my answer is not no but I just need some time to ponder the question some more" (all the while hoping that the request will go away) and "I will but I need to do this first" eeeeeek! What has happened to my yes?? I notice that the 'yes' comes easily to most areas but the whole 'get down and play trains with me here for 2 hours mum with the door closed and no sisters allowed' a little bit of a struggle at times. I really want to say the heartfelt and joyful 'yes' everytime but there is this selfish woman who shares my body screaming "no! I don't want to! I want to want to, but in all honesty I just really don't feel like it!" I really love what you are saying here Arun.

I have been saying a bit lately… “my answer is not no but I just need some time to ponder the question some more” (all the while hoping that the request will go away) and “I will but I need to do this first” eeeeeek! What has happened to my yes??

I notice that the ‘yes’ comes easily to most areas but the whole ‘get down and play trains with me here for 2 hours mum with the door closed and no sisters allowed’ a little bit of a struggle at times.

I really want to say the heartfelt and joyful ‘yes’ everytime but there is this selfish woman who shares my body screaming “no! I don’t want to! I want to want to, but in all honesty I just really don’t feel like it!”

]]> By: amie http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76009 amie Tue, 13 May 2008 00:25:46 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76009 I too reflected on "the yes" and found that it is very rare...! what a fabulous article!! Using "why not" has challenged my own thoughtless nos and makes me accountable to what I respond with... I say lets all try to find a yes somewhere and maybe the world will get just a little more positive!! I too reflected on “the yes” and found that it is very rare…! what a fabulous article!! Using “why not” has challenged my own thoughtless nos and makes me accountable to what I respond with…
I say lets all try to find a yes somewhere and maybe the world will get just a little more positive!!

]]> By: Beverley http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76002 Beverley Mon, 12 May 2008 23:58:15 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2008/05/12/finding-the-yes/#comment-76002 okay... This post of yours comes at a time when I'm decidedly in the mood for saying NO - not to my kids, who are all grown up and can decide for themselves, but to me. I do too much and desperately need to downshift - for real. I've been saying this in earnest for two years so you can see I'm hopeless at keeping my resolve. Very confused about YES and NO in my life... I see your point though. I need to find that one YES that will encourage and allow me to keep moving toward my downshifting goals. It's hidden in there, behind all the other YESs that I need to ignore. So, while I'm grabbing hold of all those NOs - gleefully - I know I'm catching pieces of that essential and elusive YES in the process. Arun, I've found another guru - you! Thanks mate, for being there, doing this thinking stuff for me. cheers Beverley http://homeschoolaustralia.com okay…

This post of yours comes at a time when I’m decidedly in the mood for saying NO - not to my kids, who are all grown up and can decide for themselves, but to me.

I do too much and desperately need to downshift - for real. I’ve been saying this in earnest for two years so you can see I’m hopeless at keeping my resolve. Very confused about YES and NO in my life…

I see your point though. I need to find that one YES that will encourage and allow me to keep moving toward my downshifting goals. It’s hidden in there, behind all the other YESs that I need to ignore.

So, while I’m grabbing hold of all those NOs - gleefully - I know I’m catching pieces of that essential and elusive YES in the process.

Arun, I’ve found another guru - you! Thanks mate, for being there, doing this thinking stuff for me.

cheers
Beverley
http://homeschoolaustralia.com

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