Comments on: Mendhi & Marriage Mayhem

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 23:43:16 +0000

Hi Arun and Anne,

Arun I really appreciate this post - gorgeous and you both did so much better than I would have done in the same situation. Life get so much more complicated than it needs to be due to the way we see it. Thanks for the wake up call, I’ll be open to our next *meltdown* and try to hear what is really happening.

By: arun

arun — Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:27:01 +0000

thanks for the plug to my article and site Sally. I also appreciate finding your blog which ill be linking too next update. (I cant believe ive not added yours Shawna… Im slack in the link dept i know!)

I seem to write and read a lot about resisting “knee jerk” responses as you put it Sally. Im pretty motivated having previously been living in the land of knee jerking… as now I realise that:

1. my knee is not a good communicator and definitely not my best feature, and

2. I was the jerk behind the knee

So trying to lose the knee, be less of a jerk and in the process hopefully let my kids survive my attempts at parenting

By: Sally

Sally — Tue, 09 Oct 2007 22:47:30 +0000

I love the idea of ‘time in’ … a great antithetical prompt for resisting knee-jerk ‘time out’ impulses in times of crisis and under social pressure.

I’ve had difficulty in the past (and probably will continue to have) with the predominant culture around me slipping in under my radar!
The idea of ‘time in’ is such a beautifully logical antidote!!!

Thanks for that!

By: shawna

shawna — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 14:44:10 +0000

What great illustrations of what so many of us could do rather than punish or ignore–no matter which philosophy we practice in regards to parenting. I mean, as an introverted person I often need to step out for awhile and gather myself at such events…I am sure children feel very similar in a gathering of adults and adult activities for long periods of time.

Your illustrations were priceless and provide so much more than mere telling.