Comments on: In That Moment http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/ alternative parenting | conscious living | unschooling Thu, 28 Aug 2008 07:32:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: shawna http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-2210 shawna Fri, 14 Sep 2007 14:38:46 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-2210 I haven't visited in awhile...have been beyond busy to say the least, but here I stop in today and two post that speak straight to my soul! Wow!~ I definitely wish to look into both people you reference...and definitely need to read this post a few times a day as I am struggling with these moments, drowning in them right now and not liking my responses, am in fact embarrassed by my responses, ashamed of them at times. I have to remember to stop by much more often! I haven’t visited in awhile…have been beyond busy to say the least, but here I stop in today and two post that speak straight to my soul! Wow!~

I definitely wish to look into both people you reference…and definitely need to read this post a few times a day as I am struggling with these moments, drowning in them right now and not liking my responses, am in fact embarrassed by my responses, ashamed of them at times.

I have to remember to stop by much more often!

]]> By: Rob in Dallas http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-2027 Rob in Dallas Thu, 06 Sep 2007 18:41:23 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-2027 Arun, What I have read is that those thoughts are not you. They are the result of your history, but you can choose to use those words/actions, or not. But realize that those are not you. They are just things floating up from old tapes or, in computer terms (I'm a computer geek, sorry), scripts that were written poorly to begin with. The trick is to recognize that they are not you, and to watch those words float by. You have the power to accept and use them, or to reject them and wait for something else to come along. These old programs were useful to us once. And they hang around, automatically doing their jobs even though we don't need them anymore. Until we decide to replace them with something better. It's not easy, but it can be done. And now I have someone else to go read as well. Arun,

What I have read is that those thoughts are not you. They are the result of your history, but you can choose to use those words/actions, or not. But realize that those are not you. They are just things floating up from old tapes or, in computer terms (I’m a computer geek, sorry), scripts that were written poorly to begin with.

The trick is to recognize that they are not you, and to watch those words float by. You have the power to accept and use them, or to reject them and wait for something else to come along.

These old programs were useful to us once. And they hang around, automatically doing their jobs even though we don’t need them anymore. Until we decide to replace them with something better. It’s not easy, but it can be done.

And now I have someone else to go read as well.

]]> By: Ela http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-1822 Ela Tue, 28 Aug 2007 11:13:07 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-1822 thanks! just what I needed today :) thanks!
just what I needed today :)

]]> By: Diane http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-1770 Diane Fri, 24 Aug 2007 13:45:15 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-1770 Wow, good advice! I guess that's sort of what I try to do, but I never thought about it in this way. I try and distance myself then "plug" into the situation differently. Whenever I take the time to do that, there are much better results and a happier kid! Wow, good advice! I guess that’s sort of what I try to do, but I never thought about it in this way. I try and distance myself then “plug” into the situation differently. Whenever I take the time to do that, there are much better results and a happier kid!

]]> By: Ren http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-1763 Ren Fri, 24 Aug 2007 04:27:56 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-1763 I absolutely love Jon Kabat-Zin. I quote from his "Wherever you go, there you are" often. If I have a bible, that is it.:) It isn't always easy to simply observe your own emotions, but it does let you find that "moment" you speak of. I get better at it slowly..... I absolutely love Jon Kabat-Zin. I quote from his “Wherever you go, there you are” often. If I have a bible, that is it.:)

It isn’t always easy to simply observe your own emotions, but it does let you find that “moment” you speak of. I get better at it slowly…..

]]> By: cyndi http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-1757 cyndi Thu, 23 Aug 2007 15:53:19 +0000 http://theparentingpit.com/2007/08/23/that-moment/#comment-1757 hello Arun, i love this post. absolutely wonderful. i`ve been struggling so hard lately during those `moments`. which is crazy. why struggle? just surrender. right?!? initially surrendering is harder. very scary. anything could happen, which only means one thing. i don`t have control. oh my god! i feel panic and confusion. i flail my arms desperately grabbing for something to lend me stability. control. the illusion of control. but....little by little, ever so slowly, at a snail`s pace :) , i let go, stop flailing, surrender...just a little. and i find that i can breathe while free falling into that moment. and what`s more, and this is the best part, i find that my children are waiting/ have been waiting to lift me up. ps. i`m reading kabat-zinn too right now (everyday blessings). really helpful. hello Arun,

i love this post. absolutely wonderful. i`ve been struggling so hard lately during those `moments`. which is crazy. why struggle? just surrender. right?!?

initially surrendering is harder. very scary. anything could happen, which only means one thing. i don`t have control. oh my god! i feel panic and confusion. i flail my arms desperately grabbing for something to lend me stability. control. the illusion of control.

but….little by little, ever so slowly, at a snail`s pace :) , i let go, stop flailing, surrender…just a little. and i find that i can breathe while free falling into that moment. and what`s more, and this is the best part, i find that my children are waiting/ have been waiting to lift me up.

ps. i`m reading kabat-zinn too right now (everyday blessings). really helpful.

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