Recently our daughter had a melt down when a mother who we met for the first time asked her to not sit on the curb. A number of factors at play:
- she believed that the mum did not trust her (that the mum thought she would run onto the road)
- she did not know what the word “curb” meant so maybe embarassed
- she was hungry

Took a while to address all of these issues and in the meantime our daughter shouting “I hate her and dont want to talk to her!” was a challenging first impression to the other mum.

Made me think of how to frame requests though… right now as our daughter explores her own power it is difficult to have short cuts. We have to explain situations so she can make a decision.

Even a simple one – coming to a busy road i said something like, “for roads like this you have to stay close to me… do you want to hold my hand or my pocket?” She immediately replied, “I dont have to! I could get squished if I wanted to!” It was some relief to me that as she explained her autonomy she also grabbed hold of my pocket

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