Where as previously many of our opinions would have been interpreted as lectures, as we move towards greater unregulation we seem to have more freedom to constructively comment. Recently we had missed breakfast and went to a shop to get something. My daughter asked for a chocolate muffin. I reminded her that we had a big day and that she might want something that will give her energy for longer and made some suggestions. I ended my comments with, “its up to you” and I really meant it.

Just a few months ago if I started that explanation my daughter would have burst into tears and protest, rightly reading my explanation as a tactful “no, you are not eating that chocolate muffin”. This time she listened and she chose one of the things I had suggested. She knew that I was coming from a place of respectful advice rather than control and she was more open as a result. Of course next time she might choose the chocolate muffin and I have to learn to accept that unconditionally.

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